Monday, February 29, 2016

Auburn, NY - March 1st - March 31st, Events in the Finger Lakes Near 10 Fitch

“March on. Do not Tarry. To go forward is to move toward perfection. March on, and Fear Not the Thorns, or the Sharp Stones on Life’s Path” - Khalil Gibran

We are Marching on here at 10 Fitch into SPRING! Can you tell we are excited?? There are a lot of events to attend springing up around our town, here are some of them : 

March 1st - Opening Day for the Seward House Museum, 33 South Street, Auburn, NY. The Seward House Museum opens for the season on March 1, 2016. This year we are celebrating 200 years of history at 33 South Street. This property was purchased in 1816 by Judge Elijah Miller in the up-and-coming city of Auburn, New York. A ten-room Federal style townhouse was constructed for his family, which included two daughters, his sister, and his mother. Little did Judge Miller know that the house would become home to one of the most important politicians in the 19th century and his eventual son-in-law William Henry Seward. New exhibits this year celebrate the architecture and history here at 33 South Street over the last 200 years. Visit or call (315) 252-1283 for more information.

March 3rd - Leo Kottke, Auburn Public Theater, 8 Exchange Street, Auburn, NY. The incredible  Finger-picking Leo Kottke will be at Auburn Public Theater for one night only! Tickets: $42 in advance, $45 at the door. For more info visit visit or call (315)-253-6669.

March 4th - Annual IGNITE the Winter!,  Genesee Center and Auburn Public Theater, Exchange Street, Auburn, NY. This IGNITE event is co-sponsored by the BID, The Citizen, the City of Auburn & Chamber of Commerce. Chili, soup & chowder cook-off, with Fresh Guac and A.D.D. on the showmobile stage, family fun in Genesee Center, an ice sculpture demo, horse-drawn wagon rides, and local wine & craft beer sales & more. Plus BID sponsored "afterglow" party at Auburn Public Theater with music by Modus Operandi from 8:00 – 10:00 pm and an exhibit by Auburn Photography Club. Live music. Beer and wine. Fun for the whole family! Free. 5:00 – 10:00 pm. For more information please contact the BID (315)-252-7874.

March 5th - Hot Cocoa and Snow-Moonlit Snowshoe, 2295 Route 89, Savannah, NY. 6 pm - 8pm. Get ready for a moonlit snowshoe adventure! We'll travel along the trails at the MAC looking and listening for wild creatures of the night! Afterwards, we'll warm up in the Center with hot cocoa! There is a fee for this program. Call (315) 365-3588 for more information.

March 5th - Red Red Wine, Seneca Lake Wine Trail. 10 a.m. - 5 p.m. This is one of the Seneca Lake Wine Trail's newest wine and food pairing events. Embrace the many terrific red wines our region is rapidly becoming better known for, all paired with innovative dishes prepared by the many participating wineries. Check in at your chosen starting winery, pick up your ticket, then enjoy a self-guided tour around beautiful Seneca Lake during this one day event. Regular tickets purchased in advance are $25 per person.Click here to purchase tickets.  $20 for designated driver tickets (alternative non-alcoholic beverage offered).

March 11th - Joe Crookston, Auburn Public Theater, 8 Exchange Street, Auburn, NY. Ithaca folk artist Joe Crookston tours all over the country with his many instruments – and he is stopping in Auburn to play for us! Tickets $20 in advance or $25 at the door. Call (315) 253-6669 or visit for more information

March 12th - Spring Walk, Sterling Nature Center, 15380 Jenzvolt Road, Sterling, NY. What signs of spring are we going to find at the nature center? There could be nesting great horned owls, courting great blue herons, migrating blackbirds or other surprises to discover. Join us for a walk to seek out signs that spring is almost upon us. FREE and open to the public. Call (315) 947-6143 for more information or visit

March 12th - March 13th - The Greater Syracuse Antiques Expo, 581 State Fair Boulevard, Syracuse, NY. Since 1996, Features 200 antique dealers selling all antiques and old collectibles. All price ranges and something for everyone. A wide variety and an enthusiastic buying crowd makes this a Spring show not to be missed! Hours:Sat. 9am-6pm, Sun. 10am-5pm. Admission:Admission Charge. Phone Number: (315) 686-5789. Alt. Phone Number: (315) 487-7711.

March 13th Tiffany Sunday Concert Series Presents: Pat Kane “Balladeer of the Southern Tier” Irish Country Music, Willard Memorial Chapel, 17 Nelson Street, Auburn NY.  Sunday at 2pm, admission $10 per person unless otherwise noted. Children 12 and under are free. Refreshments served during a brief Intermission. Main parking lot off Nelson Street; fully accessible entrance & additional parking off Seymour Street. Tickets may be purchased at Willard Chapel, 17 Nelson Street, Auburn, NY during their regular office hours Tuesday-Friday 10am-4pm or call 315-252-0339. Visit for more information.

March 19th - April 3rd - Maple Sugar Weekend Open House, Wohlschlegel’s Naples Maple Farm, 8064 Coates Road, Naples, NY. Recurring every 2 weeks, Saturday and Sunday. 8 am - 4 pm. Spring means sugar maple season and why not take some time to learn about how that delicious treat is made? Enjoy this free open house with samples galore of different maple products: moxilicious maple cream, syrups, maple mustard and more. Visit the sugarhouse for a tour and take a walk through the woods to see how the sap is gathered. Breakfast will be served for several hours each morning, featuring fresh maple syrup (for a price). Breakfast is served 8 a.m. - 1 p.m. Open House is 10 a.m. - 4 p.m. Click here for more information!

March 19th - 2nd Annual Bacon on the Lakein, Cayuga Lake Wine Trail. The follow up year to our highly successful Bacon event is here! You’ll receive a souvenir wineglass at your starting point winery and recipe cards at each of the 16 wineries as you savor all the delectable bacon! Besides sampling bacon infused dishes, you’ll sample a wine that compliments that dish, and also be offered up to 3 more additional wine tastings.
In addition, make sure to visit each of the 16 wineries to be eligible to win a BBQ themed gift basket containing BBQ sauces, utensils, and so much more! Just tear off a stub from your ticket at each winery and deposit into a Cayuga Lake Wine Trail Piggy Bank. The more wineries you visit the more chances you have to win! Saturday 10-5pm, ALL 16 wineries are participating. Sunday 10-5pm, ALL 16 wineries are participating. Tickets $15 and up. Call 800-684-5217 or visit

March 23rd - March 26th - Sister’s Easter Catechism, 8 Exchange Street, Auburn, NY.
Celebrate the Easter Season with Sister as she answers the time worn questions of the season like “Why isn’t Easter the same day every year like Christmas?” and “Will My Bunny Go To Heaven?” Part pageant, and wHOLY hysterical, this latest of the sinfully funny Late Nite Catechism series unearths the origins of Easter bunnies, Easter eggs, Easter bonnets, Easter baskets, and of course those yummy Easter Peeps. Sister answers questions about pet heaven and the significance of those adorable baby chicks! Classroom participation is a must, so don’t forget to wear your Easter bonnet and join Sister for this seasonal treat! Wed 2pm, Thurs & Sat 2pm & 7:30pm. Admission: Tickets: $35 in advance/ $38 at the door, call for group rate.

March 26th - May 22nd - Made in NY, Schweinfurth Art Center, 205 Genesee Street, Auburn, NY. Made in NY is an annual exhibit at the Schweinfurth Art Center located in Auburn, New York that features work by New York artists. This eclectic exhibition showcases two and three-dimensional work including, but not limited to, photography, sculpture, ceramics, painting, drawing, fiber, installation and video. The exhibit encourages creativity and innovation, and includes all mediums. Tue-Sat 10am-5pm, Sun 1pm-5pm. Admission: Exhibit Admission is $10 Adults. $8 for Seniors. Free to members of the Art Center and children under 12. Click here for more information

Monday, February 1, 2016

10 Fitch Luxurious Romantic Inn ~ Top 10 Marriage Hacks To Keep Your Love Thriving

Top 10 Marriage Hacks To Keep Your Love Thriving

Yeah, not just alive but thriving! 

Me & hubby 

June 2016 hubs and I will celebrate our 35th wedding anniversary. We were very young when we married, 17 and 20, and everyone we knew said it would never last.  Truthfully, for the first 7 years there were many times when all that kept us together was not wanting all those people to be right!  But during that time, and all the years since, we learned a few things about marriage, love and commitment that have helped us weather all the storms and have kept our love for each other thriving.  I hope you find them helpful too.

  1. Plan for physical intimacy.  This is absolutely critical. As time goes on and our lives get busier and busier, passionate, spontaneous sex just doesn’t happen much. Maybe you’re just too tired or there really hasn’t been an opportune time for all the stars to align and put the two of you in the mood at the same time with little or no chance of interruption. There is nothing wrong with scheduling your intimate rendezvous with your spouse.  In fact, to do so is very thoughtful and loving. Physical intimacy is so important in a marriage, that deep connection and time set apart for the two of you to be focused on nothing else but each other and deepening that bond between you. If it’s not happening on a regular basis then you definitely need to plan for it.
  2. Make a Marriage Bucket List - write down everything you want to do together. Trips you want to go on, hobbies to take up, projects to complete - spend some time talking about things you’d like to do as a couple and make a list of the ones you both agree are things you should do. You will learn a lot about each other as you make your list and you will have a lot of fun doing it. Try to set a general, tentative, date for the completion of each thing on your list - for example, next week, next spring, by 2018, before we celebrate our 25th anniversary, etc.
  3. Make a game out of doing the chores - Come up with a prize, either something you agree on as THE prize or agree that whoever wins gets to choose something. It can be anything - favorite treat, a full body massage, you agreeing to do one of their chores for a week, dinner and a movie, cleaning their car, you get the idea. Next, assign each other, and agree upon, a task or list of tasks to complete.  The first one done gets the prize or gets to pick a prize ;)
  4. Make your marriage a priority - Have regular date nights.  Actually put them on the calendar, at least once a month, doesn’t have to be expensive or fancy but it should be just about the two of you…together, for several hours, talking (but not about jobs, kids or money), connecting, laughing, sharing. This is soon important and is one of the reasons why 10 Fitch is an adults only, romantic escape.  We know how vital this is. and want to be a part of helping couples connect in meaningful, lasting ways with each other.  When our boys were young we couldn't afford to do much, even paying for a sitter was often out of the question, but we did what we could to make special time to be together and not let anything else intrude.  Maybe just snuggling up on the couch with a bowl of popcorn and a romantic movie that we watched after the kids were in bed. Later, it was going out to dinner, just the two of us, and whenever we could we would pack a bag and take a little romantic escape, even just for one night at a nearby motel, so we could reconnect and be totally away from all the demands of our lives.
  5. Say I love you every day, throughout the day.  Not just in person and face to face, leave a note where your spouse will find it, in the bathroom, car or on the fridge.  Text or message them.  Call and say, “I just wanted to tell you I love you and am thinking about you.”  When you do say it in person you should always punctuate it with a kiss :)
  6. Hold hands often.  This warm, skin to skin contact is not only romantic but also reassuring, comforting, calming, and it re-establishes an important physical connection with the one you love. Without saying a word, when you reach for someones hand you send a powerful message that you are there for them and want to be near them.   
  7. Hold hands when you are arguing.  If things are getting a little heated in your discussion call a time out, take a deep breath, make eye contact and lovingly reach for your spouses hand.  Now don’t let go until you’ve finished your discussion. It will then be much harder for anger and harsh voices to intrude.
  8. Learn & speak frequently your spouses Love Language.  This can feel like learning a foreign language.  Seriously! The truth is that we all feel love in different ways and we tend to express it to others in the same way that we best feel it.  But this can be a problem if your spouse doesn’t feel or receive love in the same way that you do because your love language won’t “translate" to them the same. If you are going to express to them that you love them you want them to hear you, you want them to feel it right? So, you need to know their Love Language which according to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five - physical touch, quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation, receiving gifts. You may think you are letting your spouse know that you love them but If you are not speaking their love language they just aren’t hearing you. Let’s say your spouses love language is physical touch but you aren’t very affectionate, you can shower them with all the gifts you want or help them with chores around the house and they still are not going to feel loved by those expressions no matter how genuine or sincere they are.  You and your spouse can download an app for your smart phone to find out what your love language is and then complete the 5 week challenge to learn how to express love to them in their language.  Pretty cool! You can find out more here.
  9. Don’t let them get away!  It’s so easy to fall into the mind set that once you are married you don’t have to try so hard to win over the one you love but if you do that you are probably going to run into problems.  Don’t you remember what it was like when you first met your spouse?  Think back now… I’ll bet that you spent a lot of time thinking about them right? You paid special attention to your appearance (and theirs!) when you knew you were going to see them. You were interested in finding out as much about them as you could so you asked questions right? You wanted to be with them and you did everything you could to win their heart didn’t you? And do you remember what that felt like, being with them then? That’s what it was like to fall in love. Well for goodness sake, don’t let them get away now!  You won your spouses heart but it’s a fact that you still have to work to keep it!
  10. Love and be more committed to your marriage than you are to your spouse.  What? I know, it sounds odd but truthfully, in this day and age of disposable marriages and couples leaving one another for practically any reason or no reason at all, if you truly want your marriage to last you
    are going to have to be more committed and invested in your marriage than you are to your spouse.  You and your spouse are human and are going to mess up at times, sometimes you aren’t going to like each other very much, you are going to disappoint one another, you are going say and do things that hurt each other and the truth is that you are probably going to go through some really terrible times in your marriage. It’s just a fact of married life so you have to be just as committed to the marriage today, and every single day, as you were the first day of your married life together.  This commitment is deeper than the commitment you made to each other and will keep you in it for the long haul no matter what your spouse does or says or how you feel about them. It’s not about resolve, to stick it out and endure no matter how horrible it gets! No, this is about love, the kind of love that is unconditional and not based on feelings or your spouses performance but on a choice, on an act of your will. This kind of a commitment will keep you together and coming out of every single difficult situation a stronger and better person and with stronger, deeper love and devotion for your spouse. It is the cement that will keep your marriage in tact and flourishing through any storm that comes your way.
If you aren't already putting into practice these 10 hacks I would encourage you to do so and to see what a difference they make in your marriage!